Effective communication tips to improve your relationship
The quality of your relationship is determined by the quality of your communication. If you want to improve your relationship, you need to work on your communication skills and use more effective ways to connect with your partner. The following article will show you some tips on how to use effective communication to improve your relationship.
Tip No. # 1: Give Your Full Attention, Be Present
Today, many couples are busy with their daily activities and once the honeymoon period is over and the relationship has become part of the furniture, we are often not really present for each other. It sounds like simple advice, however it takes absolute focus and determination. It also requires you to take responsibility for the reasons that keep you locked in your world. You may need to start looking for the reasons why you are often frustrated and impatient, address it, and stop blaming your partner.
Tip No. # 2: set aside time every day to communicate with each other
Following the first tip, make a commitment to your relationship and set aside time to share with your partner. In my work with couples, I suggest that they set aside at least 20 minutes every day to download about the day’s events and clear up any lingering issues. Be sure to allow time for each of you where the other will listen intently, which brings us to the next tip.
Tip No. # 3: listen carefully and with intention
Talking to each other is the first step and you must have the support of the other person’s listening. There is a big difference between simply listening to what your partner is saying and listening with the intention and focus of really understanding what they mean, as opposed to what you assume they meant.
Active listening has been a buzzword in communication courses and for good reason. It is the key to making someone feel understood, valued, taken seriously, which is what we hope their partner experiences in a loving relationship.
Tip No. # 4: don’t put things away
If you are committed to making time each day to connect with your partner using the tips mentioned here, take this opportunity to mention little things that could otherwise become big problems. Saving things only fosters resentment that is poisonous to a relationship. Note the way you approach the subject, which I will explain in the last tip.
Tip 5: use statements with ‘I’, instead of ‘you’
If you are talking about what happened and how it made you feel, rather than evaluating the situation or judging and blaming your partner, you have a much higher chance of being put on the list. Even when talking about a sensitive topic, remember to be clear, courteous, and appreciative. You will go further if you complain softly rather than blame.