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Valentine’s Day is Coming: Spend Your Money on You, Not Your Narcissistic Emotional Abuser

If the narcissistic emotional abuser you’re in a relationship with hasn’t yet made plans with you for the upcoming Valentine’s Day and in years past has left you feeling unappreciated and unimportant, then this year, “Why not make something different?”

Instead of wondering and hoping he shows you some love and getting your stomach in knots, go out and buy something with the money you would otherwise have spent on it and treat yourself.

Over months or years, how many disappointments have you experienced from the narcissistic emotional abuser that fall short when it’s time for him to show how important you are to him? However, you would never think of treating him the way he treats you.

Why do you keep doing the same behaviors expecting a different result? Have you ever heard the saying that insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result?

Your choice to show yourself a little love this Valentine’s Day can be a time for you to celebrate. You don’t need to be tainted with a negative attitude. Your self-treatment has nothing to do with the narcissistic emotional abuser.

You are simply making the decision to celebrate this special day of love in a different way. With anticipation, without worrying about disappointment, you can expect to wake up with wonderful plans for the day that will make you feel on top of the world.

If by chance lightning strikes the narcissistic emotional abuser with whom you are in a relationship and surprises you with a gift, simply express your heartfelt thanks.

If he makes a comment about you not giving him a gift, you can kindly and respectfully share that based on previous Valentine’s Days and not getting anything in the past, you thought he didn’t like giving gifts. Thinking you weren’t interested in celebrating Valentine’s Day or any other holiday by sharing gifts, you decided to change the way you do things.

This small but huge change is the beginning of your empowerment within this type of relationship. You are taking yourself out of the victim role by showing yourself that you have options.

You can choose to continue doing what you have been doing in the past, which was spending money on someone who has not reciprocated. However, you can choose to buy yourself something.

Valentine’s Day is Coming – Spend Your Money on You, Not the Narcissistic Emotional Abuser!

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