5 signs a man is serious about a woman

There are the exceptions, the men who eventually give in when pushed endlessly, but these relationships don’t last. I have a friend who says “I won’t stop trying to hook it until it’s mine.” She will be relentless in her activities and ultimately end up having to be deceptive in some way. She doesn’t believe in the allure of mystery or playing tough. In the end, she ends up with disappointment. Eventually these men find out and walk out the door. Men are a mindless race. ‘It is what it is’. Men are not as prone to playing tough and causing total confusion as women are. If you’re not sure if your intentions are sincere, here are some signs you’ve gotten hooked.

1. He calls on the phone.

Generally, when men start to think that things may be tense in the relationship and that something doesn’t feel right … they will call and try to find out what it is. If you’ve been out with him multiple times and have a feeling he might be the one, but he’s hard to reach. Then you may need to take a second look and move on before hanging to dry. He just isn’t interested if you can’t reach him easily.

Most men know that by calling you they are showing interest. Unless he’s shy and scared when dealing with women, he will call you. When you’ve been on a few dates and have formed real connections and feelings, men will go to great lengths to contact you. He calls you to say “I was thinking of you, so I thought I would call you.” If the man’s problem is that he is shy or intimidated, you don’t want to be the one who has to train him for the benefit of his future girlfriends … do you?

2. Includes you in family activities.

Invites you to places with friends or family. If he includes you in activities with his loved ones, he wants you to be part of his life. Why would you take a person who doesn’t give a damn to meet your family? Then she will have to go through all the questioning later when asked about her. Knowing the family is a big problem for a man and, in his opinion, it is a big step. So if you played scrabble with mom and dad on “Saturday Scrabble Day,” their weekly ritual, he thinks you’re definitely girlfriend.

3. Suggest that you leave things at home.

If he asks you to leave a change of clothes, toiletries, etc. instead then you are acknowledging a commitment. Mind you, if he’s storing your things in a box in the basement at the end of a maze with a retinal scan to clear, then he’s hiding your relationship from someone. If his things are not in plain sight, or where anyone who stops to visit can easily discover them, he is not taking his time together seriously. Or worse yet, he has someone else he cares about, and you are the one who helps him stray. If you can drop your bright pink toothbrush in the space next to hers, you’re in.

4. He lets you drive his car. Not because I’ve been drinking. / And without him as a passenger.

If you are driving a car that does not have a back seat because it was stolen and the rear window is covered with plastic wrap, then this should not apply. You probably shouldn’t drive that car anyway. This is for the guy who loves his car, spends hours getting it started, and takes pride in taking care of it. If he gives you the keys to his most prized possession, and not because it is a matter of life and death (a designated driver), you have been deemed trustworthy. In his mind, he is showing the utmost confidence in you, and the keys to his apartment will soon follow.

5. Says “I love you” with no hope of sex in sight.

If you are walking down an aisle at the local market and he stops you to say “I love you”, he really does. Men are overwhelmed with emotion in the bag, but this is short-lived and in the throes of passion, it is not wise to put all your faith in his words. Men are like a valve that opens when pressure builds up, this is the same for sex, but also for feelings and love. For men it is the action that counts, not the words. But if in the most random and unpredictable moment he expresses his feelings for you and has nothing to gain in the immediate future, he means it.

There are exceptions to this, but this applies if you are unsure at the beginning of a relationship. If the two of you have been together for a few months and in bed he says he loves you, then listen to him. Some men could take a whole year to get the words out. Always try to look at the context in which he expresses his undying love for you. Never say “I love you” first. Ever. Even if he loves you, he might freak out and feel like things are getting out of hand. Out of your control, that is.

If the two of you have been together for a long time, you should know where they stand in their love for you. If you don’t, then you have bigger fish to fry. Women have their hearts broken every day by men they trust. Those who have thrown caution to the wind and ended up being swept away or thrown to the side, could have mitigated the blow if they had saved their hearts a bit.

Men can be influenced by many things that can affect the way they view a budding relationship. Friends, family, past heartbreak and fear of commitment. That they express themselves naturally and without pressure. If he is not talking about his feelings all the time, that does not mean that he does not have real feelings for you.