How to make friends and keep them

There are many reasons why people have a hard time making friends. Here are a few:

• Unsafety
• Selfishness
• pride
• an introverted personality
• fear of people
• Overwhelming and dominant personality.
• Depression

But whatever the problem, it must be addressed and overcome. You will never have the fulfillment you want in life unless you can achieve strong relationships.

Experiencing things with others is often more enjoyable than experiencing them alone. It is your relationships that add depth to your experiences, give meaning to your actions, and provide hope for tomorrow.

Friendship is not a separate relationship in and of itself. Rather, it is the highest evolution of any particular relationship. When the neighbors become friends, when the employees become friends, when the coworkers become friends, when the children become friends, then you have entered a whole new depth in your relationships.

But how do you make friends?

MUST BE WILLING TO BE FRIENDLY.

This seems like a no-brainer, but in fact, many people miss this essential point. Don’t wait for someone to become friends with you… go and befriend them. Who wants to hang out with someone who isn’t friendly? Neither.

Being friendly means that you care about another person. Those of you who are waiting for the masses to discover your worth are going to be continually disappointed. Take an interest in other people…their needs, their wants, their desires, their hopes and dreams. You will find that they return the favor.

Two very rich men lived in a small community. One kept to himself and was tight-fisted. He was never charitable, and never considerate of others. It was his money, he had made it and no one took it from him. The other gave, he was very generous and considerate. No one who came to his house was turned away.

Then a hurricane hit the city and succeeded in destroying the two houses of the rich men. They were completely ruined. Guess which one the townspeople went to help? The friendly, of course.

It’s always hard to make friends when you’re focused on yourself. People are naturally repulsed by a selfish and self-centered person.

There is another group of people who need to heed this advice: those of you who are reclusive, or introverted, or the quiet type. These in themselves aren’t bad, but they will hinder your ability to make friends. When you don’t get involved in other people’s lives, they’ll assume you want to be left alone, and they’ll leave you alone believing that’s what you want. You, in turn, get angry because you think people don’t like you. Well, honey (or big mate), you are your own worst enemy. Come out and be nice!

Many people who are in this category find themselves in a dilemma. They want friends, but they are too afraid to show up, to get involved, and then to make matters worse, others think they want to be alone and leave them alone. It is a no-win situation.

Be nice. Here are some tips:

1. Try to satisfy the needs of another person. Do it in a fun and fun way.
2. Do not demand, expect, or imply payment for a good deed.
3. Be open. Don’t be afraid of being hurt. I’d rather love and be hurt than never love at all.
4. Don’t dominate a situation where you are not expected to be the leader. Just sit back and interact. You don’t have to control the conversation or the activity, or make things happen a certain way (even if yours is the best). Just be a participant.
5. Laughter. Laugh at yourself. Make fun of yourself. People are comfortable with other people who don’t take themselves too seriously.
6. Talk about ideas.

Weak minds talk about people

Average minds talk about things

Strong minds talk about ideas

-Dr Jack Hyles

JOIN IN COMMON GOALS

fight together. Often the strongest bonds are formed by working together. If you remember a baseball team you once played on, you’ll remember the strong bonds that were formed as they won and lost as a team.

One of the closest friends I’ve ever had was the result of a project we both worked on for over 3 years. it was a book. We co-authored it (it was never published), but for years we lived and breathed that book, wrote over 160,000 words, fought over it, brainstormed together, etc. We formed a bond that was very strong.

Don’t be afraid to get your hands dirty. Volunteer to help someone build an addition to their home, join them in a hobby, team up to make, build, or produce something. Get involved with common goals.

In counseling, I often find that many married couples struggle because they have no common goals to strive for together: nothing to dream of, nothing to hope for together, nothing to fight for together.

Don’t be a spectator of life. Jump in.

YOU MUST BE WILLING TO LOSE… TO WIN.

Friendship is the willingness to make sacrifices.

People who sacrifice for others never run out of friends!

Sometimes you have to sacrifice yourself to win friends. Again, thinking of yourself is the best way to not have friends in life. Here is a list of things you may have to sacrifice to make friends:

1. Your fears
2. your time
3. Your money
4. Your attention
5. Your love
6. Your work

Making friends can be a simple process if you are willing to put others ahead of yourself. In turn, this will be reciprocated. You could say that it is a natural law, that if you do these three things you will make friends.

PEOPLE DON’T CARE HOW MUCH YOU KNOW UNTIL THEY KNOW HOW MUCH YOU CARE!