The key to better sex: vaginal stimulation

Using vaginal stimulation to help your partner reach orgasm is a tried and true technique. However, keep in mind that this technique does not work for all women. Also, within the technique, not all tips will work for all women. You must experiment to find out what he likes.

When we talk about vaginal stimulation, we generally mean clitoral stimulation or G-spot stimulation. For some women, but not all, clitoral stimulation will result in pressure, fullness, and tension, which can lead to orgasm. Orgasm is the point where tension is released and the body will spasm with the involuntary contractions inside the vagina.

When a woman is sexually aroused, her clitoris swells and sometimes even changes color, just like the male penis. The blood vessels dilate and the vaginal lips also swell.

Clitoral stimulation can be achieved by licking, sucking, rubbing, applying pressure with your body, or even with a vibrator. For some women, the clitoral glands are the money spot, but for others it’s too sensitive to touch directly. Direct focus directly on the clitoris for a prolonged period can actually cause discomfort or simply cause the sexual sensation to dissipate. You’ll need to experiment to see if your partner likes direct or indirect stimulation, and at what point, if any, they need you to change the pressure, direction, or location of stimulation to reach orgasm.

Direct vaginal stimulation generally refers to the G-spot. The G-spot is a section of tissue a few inches inside the vaginal opening on the anterior side. You’ll know it’s the spot because it will feel rough or slightly different from the surrounding tissue. As it grows stimulated, it will swell and change in texture and feel. This is another place where you will have to experiment. Some women like the “come here” movement of an index finger in that spot. Others prefer to press, rub, or circle there. For some women, the G-spot is not erotic at all. In fact, the researchers say they cannot verify its existence. However, many couples will tell you that it not only exists, but that it produces intense orgasms.

Another way to use vaginal stimulation is to go to the A point or deep point. This place is deep in the vaginal cavity. You’ll know you’re in the right place when you feel your vaginal cavity start to curve up. This point produces lubrication, which is how it was originally detected, during research on women’s lubrication. If stimulated, this point produces body-shuddering orgasms. In fact, women who are regularly stimulated at this point will have an easier and more consistent orgasm over time.

Less is known about the A-spot than the clitoris or the G-spot. Many manuals and discussions don’t mention it at all. However, women and men who have found this place on their own will tell you that it is the real money place for a woman. Women report that the sensation of orgasm in this place is unlike any other.

Vaginal stimulation at point A with the penis is challenging unless one is well endowed. However, you can reach it with your fingers or a vibrator. Certain positions will also lend themselves to getting to this point more easily: woman on top or woman on top with a few modifications. For example, a superior position of the woman that brings the legs closer to the body or separates them, will facilitate access to point A.

Vaginal stimulation is a great way to help your partner reach orgasm. The best way to find out what will work for her is to try different types, styles, and placements of stimulation to see which will work best.