Are you too eager to fall in love?
I suspect we all know people who just have to be in a relationship. If a relationship ends, they immediately go on high alert, desperately looking for the next person to fill the vacancy in their life. Is he okay or do you think there’s something wrong with being so eager to fall in love?
Certain times of the year have the potential to be especially difficult for single people; Christmas, Valentine’s Day, birthdays, long weekends, events where couples are invited together can accentuate the feeling of being alone and without a partner.
– Some people don’t feel complete unless they have someone special in their lives, someone to care for, care for, think about. They may even experience a physical incompleteness when they are single, a deep inner emptiness, where their need to be needed defines who they are. Your relationship with your partner gives meaning to your lives.
– But when a relationship ends, it’s often good to allow some time for “the dust to settle”, to have a period of adjustment, reflection, even grieving, followed by recovery and healing.
– Whatever the reason for the breakup, it can be beneficial to take some time to reflect on what happened, what went wrong, lessons learned, and most importantly, what you do and don’t want from your relationship. future relationships. It can be good to have some time to learn how to cope on your own, even if it feels weird or uncomfortable. It is important to take time for yourself, learn from past experiences and commit to reconnect with who you are.
– After the breakup, we can become so self-aware of what we don’t want from our next relationship that we react by focusing on the desirability of traits and characteristics that are the exact opposite of what we previously had and blind ourselves to other considerations. , consequently noticing little else, good or bad, that falls outside that criterion.
– Therefore, having a very organized, fit and sporty ex or a dedicated fashion follower could prompt us to react by seeking a new partner who is more casual and relaxed, the opposite of what we have drifted away from, only to eventually get irritated by his apparent carelessness, realizing that somewhere in between there is a good compromise.
– When we are too eager to fall in love, it is tempting to see what we want to see, where we only notice the brilliant packaging that is presented. It can be seductive to ignore uncomfortable feelings and occasional annoyances, to justify or excuse your days off, irritability, or lack of motivation because we’re itching to make this new relationship work.
– It is easy to forget that we are seeing the best version of someone at the beginning of a new relationship, the kind, sympathetic person, eager to please and who may also very much want to fall in love. They are easygoing, happy that they like the same things, they are kind to our children, our elderly relatives, they don’t mind being disturbed if we change our plans.
– In the first days of a new relationship everyone behaves in the best way, it is the honeymoon stage of the relationship. It’s fine if we are able to enjoy it, but also to appreciate that it is the moment in which we know the best version of the person we are dating. Ultimately, at some point in the future, it’s normal for things to go wrong, issues and disagreements to arise and have to be worked out.
– Enjoy the good times. but also keep a healthy perspective. Enjoy the excitement and excitement of meeting someone new; the sexual chemistry, the flutter when you get a text or about to see it. But also be realistic and know that all relationships require work, tolerance and patience, as well as a good sense of humor at times to be successful.
Start how you want to continue and put on nice clothes instead. Be clear about having some time to yourself, about maintaining existing friendships and interests, even if you decide to include them sometimes. Establish good channels of communication and discuss any ‘sensitive issues’, problems or disagreements that may arise. Share your feelings and be prepared to give in on occasion. So being in love may well continue to be a wonderful part of your life.