Personal Change and the Importance of Goals in Overcoming Sex or Porn Addiction

There is an old Cornish proverb that says: “Those who will not be ruled by the rudder, must be ruled by the rock.” This refers to the shores of Cornwall, England, where so many ships ran aground or were shipwrecked in the Middle Ages because they were unable to navigate the passageways to bring their ships safely to shore. The application for us is that if we don’t listen to reason or take control of our lives, then we must suffer the consequences of simply going where life takes us.

There is another way this Proverb can be read and that is “Those who will not be ruled by the road book, must be ruled by the rock”. What? You could say? Did I spell it wrong? Not really and let me explain why. The word “rudder” means the vertical blade at the stern of a ship that can be turned to guide the ship’s direction. The word “rutter” is actually one more little-known word that most don’t know. The word “rutter” as defined by dictionary.com as

“A descriptive atlas of the Middle Ages, giving directions of navigation and furnishing charts showing the rhumb lines and locations of ports and various coastal features.”

We may also want to define “rhumb” while we’re at it: “A curve in the surface of a sphere that intersects all meridians at the same angle. It is the path taken by a ship or plane that maintains a constant compass direction.” . .

A ship that is steered by a “rudder” is one that is steered by a physical or rather rudimentary device that all ships have; they just don’t build them without them and if they did, no one would buy them. The “rudder” must be operated by someone to affect the ship’s direction and that “operator” must have the knowledge of “where” and “how” to turn the ship to guide it safely to its destination.

The “log book” really is the key to guiding the ship or vessel safely to its destination because the “route book” or map is one that has a cumulative knowledge of those who have gone before on the same voyage and have recorded where the “rocks” are. and dangerous areas and gives exact instructions on the safest route to reach the desired destination. The “rutter” also directs the operator to the proper course to maintain a “steady compass heading”, which is important if you want to get to your destination in a timely manner and not be wandering all over the ocean.

The wisdom of this analogy is that unless we want to wander through life without an address, a map, or a “road book” of where we want to go, we will never achieve anything significant or the most dangerous consequence of this mind. established is that we will be mercilessly thrown onto the “rocks” of life and suffer further loss, harm, death, or disease for failing to direct our lives in a safe and more desired direction.

Another famous quote to insert at this point would be:

“For all the sad words of tongue and pen, the saddest are these, ‘Could have been’.” Quotes from John Greenleaf Whittier (American writer, 1807-1892)

Looking back on our lives and seeing the love, achievements, success, family, friends, and wonderful memories will fill us with fulfillment and happiness. Looking back on a life filled with addictions will fill us with an empty and unsatisfying void.

The goals are the key difference between these two drastically different results. By designing your own personal “Rutter” to guide your life, as well as following the paths to good destinations that others have forged, you will help anyone struggling with addiction or how their life is going to change their bottom line. misery to one of joy, satisfaction and happiness!