You can’t truly love another until you truly love yourself (what does that mean?)

When we look within ourselves, we see a mess. If we don’t see a disaster, then we are most likely crazy! There are those who think they are perfect (beware of them!), but we will generally admit that we are a jumble of conflicting desires. To truly love another means to fully empathize with him; we understand and identify with them. But how do we do this if we don’t understand ourselves? Therefore, it seems imperative that we look at ourselves inside and out, and understand our motives. Only then can we begin to understand the other, and only then can we begin to love.

This seems, on the surface, somewhat selfish; that is, look at ourselves, but until we do, we will be lost in our illusions of life. Illusions are images, and when we live in images, we never live life directly and fully. Living life fully requires living the realities of life, not its illusions.

Looking at ourselves causes pain, but it is in pain that character is forged, so that pain will be beneficial. It will be painful though, but this pain is a pain that ends all pain, unlike the happiness and joy that we believe drives our pain away, only to be met with disappointment again and again when our illusions of happiness and joy give way. they end suddenly.

Dismantling the tangled ball of a lifetime of misunderstanding is something that few attempt or understand. Most just sleepwalk through life not understanding why things aren’t working out for them or their relationships, so now you have an advantage over most of humanity. You are now on your way to unconditional love.

The words you just read planted a seed, and the seed will one day grow. Life will be investigated more closely then, and your life will open up, a breath of fresh air will enter it. Relationships will also open up and there will be less fear of the other’s motives, because when you understand your own motives, there can be no more secrets.

And one day, your inner clutter will become calm and peaceful, and you will discover that the negative self that you could never love before does not exist. This is where unconditional love happens, exactly at that point when you let go of your “I”, and by letting it go, it no longer creates fear in you. Then you find yourself loving yourself in some way, and when the “I” no longer takes up so much space, only the other exists.

Then you can truly love.